Had Enough - Feel Has Though Not Respected

[trebor171170 0]

I have read and digested many of this threads.

Why do I feel like this beacuse

a) I dont meet with the clients - except only once at the clients request - it was a birthday party in Southport and I live in Mansfield - still a brill night espically when it was a marquee full of pi:cense:ed scousers,

 

b) my confirmation letter does cover any special requets and I call the client espically with weddings 2 weeks prior to see if everthing is okay - my bride for the 4th of October rang me the other nite has see had list of things to do a mile long - told her to clam down and pray for fine weather,

 

c) I am in the £150-£200 bracket, it just seems the climate later in my area, I have gone to other places, Birmingham and Liverpool and managed to charge over £200 plus,

 

d) I look after my show and feel that it looks and sounds great, I have seen some table cloth DJ's lately,

 

e) I have feedback forms that take no more than a minute to fill in and send back (comes with a SOE), not many bother to return them and this makes me wonder,

 

BUT I LOVE IT AND WOULD NEVER DISAPPOINT A CLIENT BY NEVER TURNING UP EVEN IF IT TURNS OUT TO BE THE MOST BORING NIGHT EVER.

 

Thats it, it time for another pint or cuppa

 

My little boy at 5 cheers me up when he tells me he wants to a DJ like daddy when he grows up

Personally, I think it has something to do with the flashing lights and the music

 

:ab

 

Cheers for reading

Rob

 

YNWA

Edited September 19, 2008 by trebor171170

[Neil of the Roadshow 0]

Hey dude.

 

You okay - I get the feeling the punters are doing your noggin in.

 

We all feel like that sometimes. Bags of effort and then pack the kit away and fade away without a thank you, or even a safe journey home.

 

I had a big run of them and then one decent one restores your faith.

 

 

 

[trebor171170 0]

Hopefully Saturday gives me that boost

[andyw 0]

 

 

Thats it, it time for another pint or cuppa

 

My little boy at 5 cheers me up when he tells me he wants to a DJ like daddy when he grows up

Personally, I think it has something to do with the flashing lights and the music

 

:ab

 

Cheers for reading

Rob

 

YNWA

 

1 sugar in mine, waiting an eternity for the wife to come home from work to make me one :hide:

 

your 5 yr old is what it's all about make the most of him they grow so quick

[trebor171170 0]

1 sugar in mine, waiting an eternity for the wife to come home from work to make me one :hide:

 

your 5 yr old is what it's all about make the most of him they grow so quick

 

Born 3 months early with his twin brother and there 5 already

Seems like yesterday

[Neil of the Roadshow 0]

My little one is 23 months and he loves dancin' when my baby 200 watt cabs are out for rehearsals.

 

If I leave them out afterwards he runs up to them points, says 'daddy' and claps.

 

Hey who needs a crowd when your boy thinks you rock.

 

I will say a prayer for us both to the great DJ in the sky tomorrow on my way out to my gig.

 

Let me know how tomorrow goes for you.

 

Just remember there are thousands of us out there tomorrow riding the great rollercoaster of the general public. I am sure a percentage of us will wish we hadn't been born as its thats dull.

 

 

[Andy Westcott 0]

It was pretty much this (amongst other things) that made me decide to pack it in in 2001, but here I am again.

 

Some of us just never learn...

 

But it's true - all you need is one appreciative crowd, or just one or two people to say something positive at the end really, and it all seems so much better.

[dh140770 0]

I packed it all in 10+ years ago through lack of appreciation. I think it is just part of the business as here i am again spinning the tunes for the punters.

 

There is one reason why I DJ ...... because I like to see people have a good time ... and my 'gift' (call it that?) is to play the records. I have no talent as such, I just love music and people enjoying themselves as a result.

 

Now i just accept the good with the bad I think. I try to give them what they want ... if they don't wanit it, and don't tell me, what can i do ? I listen and heed the adivce of others and many tell me i do a great job, but often they don't say either way.

 

We'll see what tomorrow night brings ... it could be a cracker ... or it could be just another night. I hope it's the former..

 

Keep smiling.

[McCardle 1]

My little boy at 5 cheers me up when he tells me he wants to a DJ like daddy when he grows up

 

You are a lucky bloke. I know a couple who have been trying to start a family for 3 years with no success, and who'd love to be in your position, being a parent and role model is surely better and more rewarding than clients worshipping at your feet, and there is far more to life and being a success than what is written on your confirmation or how much you charge for a gig. I think people lose sight of these things sometimes.

 

I know what you mean though. I honestly don't think that people enjoy themselves at functions as much as they did 15 or 20 years ago, maybe i'm hanking after the 'good old years' but I really do think that people are wrapped up in problems or drowning their sorrows in booze at the bar to really let their hair down and it makes our job far harder and often the writing is on the wall about how well a gig will go before we even take the kit out of the car. Sometimes its really difficult to get a plain and simple 'thank you' at the end of a booking, but thats just society, and nothing personal.

 

Not sure whether your post is just an ironic tongue in cheek account of a run of bad gigs or If you are serious about giving up the discos. If you are serious, then make sure that you do it for all of the right reasons such as spending more time with your family, not because that you feel that as a Deejay you are not keeping up with the joneses!. Like everything else in life, this industry doesn't come with a manual, it comes in kit form, and you need to work hard to build it up, usually only to find that there are pieces missing!. i'm sure that you have had many gigs where you've felt it all to be worthwhile, but its human nature to always focus and dwell on the negative, but its that which keeps us focused.

Edited September 20, 2008 by McCardle

[C.S 0]

Come on guys! what do you expect? that the customer is going to come home to your place , pat you on the head and tell you how great you are ? Its a job like any other, when did you last tell eg a bus driver or a shop assistant that you really apreciated their efforts ?. If you got paid and get bookings then you are doing a good job , that should be enough. My son of 23 and daughter of 20 think its tragic that their dad is a club dj, ehjoy your kids before they start disliking you ! tongue out icon

[trebor171170 0]

You are a lucky bloke. I know a couple who have been trying to start a family for 3 years with no success, and who'd love to be in your position, being a parent and role model is surely better and more rewarding than clients worshipping at your feet, and there is far more to life and being a success than what is written on your confirmation or how much you charge for a gig. I think people lose sight of these things sometimes.

 

I know what you mean though. I honestly don't think that people enjoy themselves at functions as much as they did 15 or 20 years ago, maybe i'm hanking after the 'good old years' but I really do think that people are wrapped up in problems or drowning their sorrows in booze at the bar to really let their hair down and it makes our job far harder and often the writing is on the wall about how well a gig will go before we even take the kit out of the car. Sometimes its really difficult to get a plain and simple 'thank you' at the end of a booking, but thats just society, and nothing personal.

 

Not sure whether your post is just an ironic tongue in cheek account of a run of bad gigs or If you are serious about giving up the discos. If you are serious, then make sure that you do it for all of the right reasons such as spending more time with your family, not because that you feel that as a Deejay you are not keeping up with the joneses!. Like everything else in life, this industry doesn't come with a manual, it comes in kit form, and you need to work hard to build it up, usually only to find that there are pieces missing!. i'm sure that you have had many gigs where you've felt it all to be worthwhile, but its human nature to always focus and dwell on the negative, but its that which keeps us focused.

 

I did forget to mention that it take us 6yrs to get the twins and wwe had to have a little help

I will say no more

 

However, I feel the pain of couples who dearly want children and can not.

I have a friend in the same position, over 7 mis-carriages, it does not seem right.

I want get into the back parent syndrome has that really winds me up - lets say I support the NSPCC with my whole heart

 

[UKHero 0]

You are a lucky bloke. I know a couple who have been trying to start a family for 3 years with no success, and who'd love to be in your position, being a parent and role model is surely better and more rewarding than clients worshipping at your feet, and there is far more to life and being a success than what is written on your confirmation or how much you charge for a gig. I think people lose sight of these things sometimes.

 

I know what you mean though. I honestly don't think that people enjoy themselves at functions as much as they did 15 or 20 years ago, maybe i'm hanking after the 'good old years' but I really do think that people are wrapped up in problems or drowning their sorrows in booze at the bar to really let their hair down and it makes our job far harder and often the writing is on the wall about how well a gig will go before we even take the kit out of the car. Sometimes its really difficult to get a plain and simple 'thank you' at the end of a booking, but thats just society, and nothing personal.

 

Not sure whether your post is just an ironic tongue in cheek account of a run of bad gigs or If you are serious about giving up the discos. If you are serious, then make sure that you do it for all of the right reasons such as spending more time with your family, not because that you feel that as a Deejay you are not keeping up with the joneses!. Like everything else in life, this industry doesn't come with a manual, it comes in kit form, and you need to work hard to build it up, usually only to find that there are pieces missing!. i'm sure that you have had many gigs where you've felt it all to be worthwhile, but its human nature to always focus and dwell on the negative, but its that which keeps us focused.

 

Read this digest it and use it as your mantra.. I could not have put it any better than the above advise. :Thumbup: :nbow:

 

Nik

Edited September 21, 2008 by UKHero

[Robster 0]

I had a absolutely brilliant gig on Friday ,rammed pub full of singers and dancers soft drinks bought for me from customers without asking me , it was ace i got a real buzz..

last night, same pub, 25 people in total, dead !!

..people came out to sulk. smiling would have cracked half there faces tongue out icon

 

From hero to zero in 24 hours , i haven't changed , the equipment didn't, sometimes its just like that and it is hard NOT to take it personally.it totally took the shine off the Friday night for me this can get to you.

 

But as other say we are all really lucky if we have our health and loved ones.

Edited September 21, 2008 by enquirer

[jeffwall 0]

do your best, and take the money! Thats all you can do

 

However (with all respect) try to be positive on the nights working. Because if you "buzz" the crowd has more chance of "buzzing" too.

 

It you look bored and dejected, chances are the punters will pick up on it and may have a knock on effect.

 

A few mic skills can change a night from boring to buzzing, but you have to be assertive and in the mood for it, as well as decent music.

[Lag1Rich 0]

As above^^ Take it on the chin, Ride the bull by the horns - Just a few good sayings!!

 

Ive always prefer my regular pub spot to private functions because im always garunteed a prase at the end of the night, Clapping, and shouting more!!

 

My advice if you fancy the swich over is to get a regular saturday night spot, You also then get to know the punters and locals!! I love it, As for the children side I would also have a stand in DJ to cover once or so a month just for the plain fact you can there4 spend more time with them!

 

Richard

[RichardP 0]

Come on guys! what do you expect? that the customer is going to come home to your place , pat you on the head and tell you how great you are ? Its a job like any other, when did you last tell eg a bus driver or a shop assistant that you really apreciated their efforts ?

Actually you know what, everytime I get off the bus I say thank you and wave. And if a shop assistant is friendly and helpful, I thank them for their time and help.

 

How much effort is it really to smile and thank somebody for doing a good job, assuming they have done?

 

Quite often, it makes you feel good to make someone else feel good. Spread the love & all that jazz.

 

It's about simple courtesy and respect - a dying phenomenon in today's stressed society and culture of over expectation.

 

Peace :love:

[D.X 0]

Come on guys! what do you expect? that the customer is going to come home to your place , pat you on the head and tell you how great you are ?

 

:bouncy:

 

 

If you think you're not appreciated being a DJ you're in for an even bigger shock when you go and work in some factory or office. Having worked in many factories around England as an engineering contractor you're lucky if you get treated any better than pond life. I've worked for a few people who I'd consider decent blokes. The majority were just morons.

[Andy Westcott 0]

Yep - most consider you an unavoidable expense.

[trebor171170 0]

:bouncy:

If you think you're not appreciated being a DJ you're in for an even bigger shock when you go and work in some factory or office. Having worked in many factories around England as an engineering contractor you're lucky if you get treated any better than pond life. I've worked for a few people who I'd consider decent blokes. The majority were just morons.

 

Done both - factory and office floor - theres not much difference

At least Djing, I am the boss or maybe not has my wife does most of the bookings

 

Regular work in a pub, never again, did 12yrs in the same place and watched the clientele dwindle down to nothing due to the price of booze and the smoking ban. The little pub (centre of mansfield ) is now like many others on the verge.

[exbutlinred82 0]

You need to have the adrenalin pumping.all day.

 

 

If i'm doing a wedding in the evening my whole day is spoilt churning over the tactics for the evening..but it works as I can't remeber the last time I didnt't excel myself.However If I had had a bum night like you seemed to have had I would feel like you.

 

 

Hold onto the sides....don't fall in the pit!!When its good its the best job in the world!!