Bit Of Advice Needed

[Draconic Pride 0]

I'm all for working as many nights as possible. At the minute I currently work Fridays and Sundays DJing at my residency. Then back there on a Wednesday to DJ and run their music quiz. Most Saturdays I'm out doing private functions or sound for bands and Thursdays I'm either doing sound for bands or photographing bands.

Throw into the mix the fact that I rehearse with my band on a Tuesday night and it leaves me with very little time to myself or to spend with the other half.

 

I've been offered Monday nights by my current residency.

 

Like I said I'm all up for working as many nights as I can and bringing in as much money as I can, but the other half hit the roof when I mentioned it to her as that means I'll now be spending most of my weeks there (sometimes 5 nights!)

 

How do you think it's best to approach this with the other half?

[Dukesy 0]

First question is Dj'ing your sole or an additional occupation?

 

If its a full time occupation then it could be put across that you have a quota of 39 hours across 5 days to equate to a normal everyday 9-5 job!. It would also be reasonable for some employers to expect you to put in some overtime now and again or to rota an additional day for them, since in self employment your clients are effectively your boss, its not unreasonable for them to want you for the extra day.....

 

If you are full time DJ and currently doing a gig workload of less than a 39 hour week, then you are lucky enough to be considered by the nation to be 'part time' and so you already spend more time at home than most working people with a 9 - 5

 

If your DJ'ing is in addition to a full time job, then its probably down to your personal discretion as to how much time you already spend at work, and then how much of the limited 'free' quality family time is then spent working at gigs. If you do both then your wife may be making a good point in relation to you not being at home much.

 

Another point i've heard mentioned on the forum is that Shrouds don't come with pockets, so its not worth working yourself into ill health for a few extra quid.

 

It also depends on how fierce Mrs Draconic Pride is and how many times you've already used the chocolates and flowers approach :saint:

[vokf 0]

Just adding to Dans post ;

DJing normally involves working when "most" are not - ie evenings.

Could Mrs Draconic Pride come with you to some gigs (providing she can actually help - ie quiz night?), at least you'll spend some time together - and be working as a team.

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Other than that, it goes without saying that the "free" nights/time needs to be spent together. :love:

 

[Draconic Pride 0]

Had a chat with the other half.

Decided to pretty much stop taking Thursday night bookings so I can spend them with her.

I've decided to take thee Monday nights.

Will be starting soon fingers crossed.

[DJMickeyk 0]

Jeez if I was out 6 nights a week my OH would go mental. I had a very busy summer, was out minimum 2 nights a week and usually 3, as well as working a full time job and it caused alot of problems, mainly because we have kids and all the childminding was falling to her all the time. Time off and time with the family is precious IMO, good luck with the new night, but for me I'd hate to be away from the family that much personally. I suppose thats easy to say when DJ work is not my main source of income however, and appreciate that if it was my main job I'd probably have a very different attitude.

[vokf 0]

Same as Mickey, 6 night+day job is a lot of time away.

Try to make time, I don't want to read of you being a single guy in a few months and this is exactly how it starts :-(

 

Jason

Edited September 29, 2010 by vokf

[Raymilkybarkid 0]

Same as Mickey, 6 night+day job is a lot of time away.

Try to make time, I don't want to read of you being a single guy in a few months and this is exactly how it starts :-(

 

Jason

 

Agreed and have the ex wifes to prove it.

 

This is how it all starts for sure spend some time with your lady and never take her for granted because one day you will come home to find her gone and thats from experience.

 

I don't mean to be blunt but I am on number 3 and spend as much time as I can with Elaine because I am going to make the same mistakes as before.

[deejaymitch 0]

I used to work that much but that was back when I would do anything to avoid spending time with my then other half. This job is very hard on relationships, something really does have to give.

[kipper dj 0]

I'm all for working as many nights as possible. At the minute I currently work Fridays and Sundays DJing at my residency. Then back there on a Wednesday to DJ and run their music quiz. Most Saturdays I'm out doing private functions or sound for bands and Thursdays I'm either doing sound for bands or photographing bands.

Throw into the mix the fact that I rehearse with my band on a Tuesday night and it leaves me with very little time to myself or to spend with the other half.

 

I've been offered Monday nights by my current residency.

 

Like I said I'm all up for working as many nights as I can and bringing in as much money as I can, but the other half hit the roof when I mentioned it to her as that means I'll now be spending most of my weeks there (sometimes 5 nights!)

 

How do you think it's best to approach this with the other half?

give her half of the money works for me

 

[milhouse 0]

Ive worked 7 nights a week for many years now... the solution is quite simple, get an "other half" who also works in the same industry... barstaff, manager etc... it worked for me haha.

 

However mine always tend to fall through within 12 months. Im now looking for a new other half.

 

DJing is my only and fulltime occupation, so I have to make the most of it... I have a mortgage to pay. The reason Im one of the few of my old school friends who has not yet settled down is probably due to my job. The money and lifestyle can be good but it is hard on relationships. I'm considering a "proper" job within the next 3 years.

Edited October 10, 2010 by JonWhittaker