Just what i wanted to hear!

[TymmyD 0]

Back from doing a girls 26th birthday, took a while to get em going, as always, everything going well and mostly playing for the birthday girls and friends as they seemed to go for anything i played. Fitted in most of the request in the right era's and every one have a great time.

 

The night flowed very well and by the last half hour we had a dance floor full right till the end and then got asked to play one more just as we unplugged everything!

 

The manager said it was ok, so we plugged the sound back in and started playing their choosen last song. packing everything else away and thinking your doing a good thing, also still on a high as it was a good night everyone was happy and we got the clap at the end.

 

This guy comes up to us, my roadie first and then came round to me and said "I just thought ill let you know, that was the SH:cense:TIST disco ive ever been to"

 

Well that just killed it, I was really tempted to lamp him one! http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/box.gif

 

But hey, I collected my money and took my anger out by sharing it with you's.

 

I hope your evening didnt end like this.

 

Tim.

 

[The Spindoctor 0]

Tim

Don't you worry mate, in every disco theres always one t*sspot and hey he stayed till the end! Your answer of course is "I got paid to be here acting the prat, what was your excuse"??????

 

Spin

[Paul Smith 0]

There's always a village idiot at mine too and the bright flashing lights seem to attract them to me - either that or it's because no one else in the room will speak to them http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif

[C.S 0]

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we got the clap at the end.

 

Um What kind of a gig was it???????

[paula 0]

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[Hugmaster 0]

Hi mate

 

Sorry you had the guy with the missing brain.

 

if the dancefloor was pretty active all night and everyone seemed to have a good time, I think my answer would've honestly been one or a mixutre of the following comments.

 

1. Listen mate, tell someone who actually gives a f:cense:k

 

2. You're not paying me and everyone else seeemed to enjoy themselves, what's it like to be the odd one out???

 

3. Listen mate, don't try and tel me how to do my job, do I come down to McDonnalds and criticise the way you sweep up?

 

Make sure they've got no mates around, which was probably the case as he needed someone to talk to.

 

Don't sweat it, they turn up at most gigs.

 

Darren

[YourBigEvent 0]

Everyone here has been a sh#t DJ according to someone, funny how they are always drunk and wait until the end of the night though

[Steve 0]

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Everyone here has been a sh#t DJ according to someone, funny how they are always drunk and wait until the end of the night though

 

Pretty much sums it up I think....they have finished that last bit of pint glass mine sweeping, probably havent even been in the same function room until the bar closes and you have 3 songs to go.....and guess what, your s:cense:t!!!

 

Now and again you have to deal with this, I have reacted to it once, not violently but did get a bit of agro at the end of a night...imo worst thing you can do with all that expensive equipment around.

 

Steve

[Gary 0]

Most likely he was a local DJ feeling concerned for his own loss of work now that he knows that you're in the area.

 

When he said "That was sh!t" I would have asked "In what way exactly?"

 

He was probably just being spiteful, BUT if he could've given you his specific thoughts (if he had any), then its possible that he might have given you something constructive, even though it doesnt sound like you needed anything extra on that night for it to go well.

 

If you'd asked him why he felt the way he did, he might have wandered off, with his bluff called, muttering about how "well my disco is better, thats all", but he might have told you how maybe you didnt play enough Iron Maiden for his liking, or didnt play his request for "Any 6 tunes from the Sex Pistols", but, what if he'd said "your spinning light was in my eyes all night" or "we couldnt hear your mic all night?"....

 

As I say, its most likely he didnt have a valid excuse (certainly sounded like a great night), but its always worth asking, even if only to keep him talking, while your roadie grabs a bouncer/venue manager.

 

A DJ (and former DJ agency owner) who I used to work for yeeaaarrsss ago, used to tell me that he'd rather know 1 genuine, bad comment that people thought about his show/service, than 30 good things.

 

Im not sure about to 30:1 ratio, but in the instance of GENUINE negative feedback, I could always see what he meant.

[Kingy 0]

I had an "experience" once. In a nutshell, whilst working at a retail shop I met a guy who was a "Dj" too. He told me how great his show was etc etc etc. He then purchased an M33 (24v 250watt) lamp and when I asked him if I should throw the old one away for him, he replied " My mate may be able to do something with it" and kept it. His choice. Anyhow, he knew of my reputation of doing a good show ( or so they tell me....??) and he was a guest at a gig which I must admit was crap. The room was full of "Muso's" and the party should really have had a live band. I played all the stuff that you would expect, with a surprisingly poor dance floor re-action. At the end of the night he came over and said that he could have done a far better job,what happend to the Top Dj you were supposed to be etc etc.

 

That guy got right under my skin and I physically had to stop myself from knocking him out.

 

It takes all sorts. He still advertises his twister 2's as being lazers! Enough said. http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/thumbdown.gif

[TymmyD 0]

Well Ive calmed down from the other night, but I'm still thinking about it.

but it sounds like its happened alot to others too. I think if it happends again I would be able to deal with it a lot better (In my self) It's just that it has never happend to me untill now and ive been doin gthe shows a while now.

It's just a knock back afer you've tried so hard during the night and thinking every one is having a good time and it just seemed so personel at the time.

 

Like I said, Its not so bad now, Your comments definatly helped.

 

Thanks for supporting me http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/notworthy.gif

 

 

[YourBigEvent 0]

No problem, but it WILL happen again

[ChrisPointon 0]

In this business, dealing with Drunks, Troublemakers, Idiots and those who feel that they have to prove themselves to their mates, is all part of the Job http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/sad.gif , unfortunately some of the nicest people you could meet sober, turn into mouthy pillocks when they drink to much.

 

I find that people who come over with an axe to grind simply do it to provoke a response. They may have split up their partner, or be having financial problems, or just had a bad day at work, most of them are simply teenagers not capable of handling a few pints and bravado takes over common sense. Either, way they want attention, in a similar way to toddlers who want their dummy back http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/smile.gif , and by shouting, arguing, or threatening them is playing right into their hands, and is exactly what they want you to do.

 

For the most part, those criticising, swearing or being generally obnoxious around you are the minority, in fact perhaps the only person in the building who shares that opinion!. However, if you start a shouting match with one of these prats, or worse still, start kicking the crap out of them, then you are just as much in the wrong (however good it makes you feel) and all the good, hard work that you did earlier to impress the majority of the audience WILL be ruined if you start a brawl.

 

I find it's better to ignore troublemakers, they can make idiots of themselves publically without any help from me, and after 5 mins of silent treatment they find it difficult to maintain an argument with themselves and move on http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/smile.gif . Most people can make up their own minds, whether they have enjoyed themselves or not, and that good opinion of you won't be swayed by one person staggering around the room, being very vocal about how crap HE thought you were!.

 

It's easy to lose your cool, and tell them where to stick their Air Guitar, but the best way to ignore troublemakers and avoid escalation is just to ignore them.

[Dukesy 0]

Please don't dwell on it.

 

Best Wishes

 

Dan

DD

[RobbieD 0]

Tim, we all get this from time to time.

 

A few years ago I started asking them what they didn’t like, and the answers tend to weaken what they have said. In the past year I’ve had these two incidences whilst packing up:

 

 

1) "Your disco was sh**" from drunk guy in his 50’s

 

"What didn’t you like about it?"

 

"It was just was"

 

He obviously had the brain of a 5 year old.

 

 

2) "You’re a crap DJ" from a group of pale teenagers dressed in black baggy trousers, chains hanging from their belts and black spiky hair.

 

"What didn’t you like about the disco?"

 

"You didn’t play any rock."

 

"You didn't request any. If you had, I would have played some."

 

This was easy to say after I had finished http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/tongue.gif they all just looked at each other, then walked off http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/laugh.gif

 

 

I know it can hurt (I too tend to remember every time it happens) but these people are normally drunk or stupid (often both). It’s about how the majority enjoyed themselves, rather than the views of one or two people.

[joe 0]

QUOTE (RobbieD @ Jun 2 2004, 08:40 AM)

It’s about how the majority enjoyed themselves, rather than the views of one or two people.

http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/thumbup.gif WELL SAID! http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/thumbup.gif

[kazzachi 0]

Jealousy counts for a lot..... if the other dj wasnt sh"t then he obviously would have been out working..................oooo the green eyed monster!

[High Fidelity 0]

Never had this at a disco yet, probably because I haven't been going long enough.

 

In everyday life though, my normal response to any stranger who has a criticism, or is trying to order me about is

"And you are??".

 

People who don't have a genuine point or reason usually imediately back down when confronted by demanding their name or position.

[YourBigEvent 0]

I have only ever 'lost it' once when someone came up at the end of a gig and told me I was 'not very good', I think you're ugly but I kept that to myself didn't I, anyway you've spent £50 tonight, I've earnt £150 so I am now £200 better off than you AND I'm going not going home alone unlike you...........

[YourBigEvent 0]

Sorry, just remembered I did have one lad come up to me and state that 'If I didn't play one more record, I wouldn't be going home tonight', needless to say he didn't get his record......

 

I have even had a group of lads waiting for me outside a gig to 'get me' but walking out with a speaker stand normally does the job.....

[Digital discos 0]

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with a speaker stand normally does the job.....

 

Lol

 

This little annoying git at one gig I did was hacking me off bigtime wouldn't stop going away and was requesting loadsa of explicit music when there were little kids in the room and started trying to mess up my keyboard. He then started messing about with my smoke machine which was on the floor he opened the lid off and got some hot fluid on his hands, wow did that shut him up.

[ChrisPointon 0]

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He then started messing about with my smoke machine which was on the floor he opened the lid off and got some hot fluid on his hands, wow did that shut him up.

 

Pretty irresponsible of him.....and YOU. http://www.dj-forum.co.uk/html/emoticons/wallbash.gif What were you doing allowing people to be around, and mess with your gear in the first place?. You could have been just as liable as him, for any injury sustained. You need to take a bit more responsibility, Smoke Machines and Electrical Equipment can be lethal if used incorrectly especially where Children are concerned and I can't believe that you would find a child injuring themselves at your gig, amusing.

[YourBigEvent 0]

And if he had splashed the fluid onto the electricial cord.....

[Digital discos 0]

You have a point but I tryed to explain to him to leave it alone about 5 times and considering he was bigger and taller than me I couldn't physically remove him- he was about 20 years old I dont classify him as a child? I don't really find it amusing, I was recalling a story from the past besdes after telling him him not to do it, how is this my responsibilty?

 

Please could you explain what I could have done?

 

[ChrisPointon 0]

Suggest that, given your age, you take an Adult with you to disco's where you may feel threatened or ever be in this situation.

 

If you are working Adult functions, then you certainly need an Adult Chaperone with you, even if they just sit at the bar, and are not actually working, or on stage with you.

 

I'm not having a go at you, or lecturing you, I'm just trying to offer you some good advice. The average adult function is not the place for a youngster to be working alone and unaccompanied. Troublemakers can create problems at any venue, even for older D.J's, as this thread indicates.

 

I'm not saying that you need an Adult to DJ for you, and having an older relative with you wouldn't make you any less of a D.J, it's just that you need somebody to control any troublemakers or heated situation.

 

It is your responsibility to prevent people from coming onto the stage and messing about with your Laptop / Smoke Machine etc. If you are not physically able to prevent them, then you need somebody with you who is. Do you think that he would have still done this if you had an Adult on stage with you?.